List “guilt” of loneliness harming health
Loneliness is no stranger to the busy modern people. Sometimes it is a sense of powerlessness that strikes in the middle of the night, sometimes it is a sense of loss in the humorous laughter of friends and friends. Even the happy person may be stabbed by the sharp sword of loneliness at any time.hurt.
Health magazine even recently put forward the view that “loneliness can kill people” and listed its “guilt” for harming health.
The old people and children are the most lonely. Every age has its own loneliness.
Some time ago, there were media reports that a 71-year-old solitary old man in Chongqing hit 1483 110 times a year, the purpose was to find someone to chat with him.
This phenomenon is not accidental. Living alone is unaccompanied, there is nothing to do after retirement, and the children are busy visiting. There is nowhere to tell the loneliness of the elderly.
The summer vacation that has just passed is also lonely for many children. Some parents only know what to arrange for their children for a day, but they cannot comfort their lonely hearts.
A survey of countries such as Anglo-American law found that more than half of children (under 18 years of age) and nearly half of elderly people (over 65 years of age) often feel lonely, and 15% to 30% of people are lonely for a long time.
A survey by the Committee on Aging of China found that nearly half of urban elderly families are empty nests; the “Modern Children’s Interpersonal Relationship Report” shows that 40% of children are lonely and do not like to communicate with their parents.
Seemingly busy office workers were unable to escape the lonely attack.
A survey released at the China International Conference on Positive Psychology revealed that in 6.
Of the 90,000 participants, nine adults felt lonely.
There are different reasons behind loneliness, but there are 4 kinds that we often experience.
One is that if you want to squeeze into a circle, but you find that the people around you are like copper walls and iron walls, you want to walk into the other person’s heart and find that he has not given you a chance at all; the second is that you have to squeeze into a circle because of something, everyone startsLook at you coldly; the third is irrelevant to others, the more reason lies in yourself, the idiom is indifferent or keep silent; the fourth is to be able to share with others, but find that each other can not go further, the heart is full of power and helplessness.
Loneliness is equivalent to smoking a pack of cigarettes every day. The feeling of loneliness is not only a torture of the heart.
Its health hazard is beyond imagination.
Studies show that people who have been surrounded by loneliness and loneliness for a long time are equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
In addition, lonely people like to do things that make them feel better. They may smoke or drink, or choose to stimulate things such as drag racing, and this kind of remedy is even worse for health.
And studies have found that children who feel isolated in childhood are more likely to become obese after the age of 26, or have cardiovascular, cerebrovascular and other risk factors such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and high blood lipids.
People who suffer from loneliness have more active viruses in their bodies, and the substances that can cause chronic inflammation in the blood are slightly higher.
Chronic inflammation is associated with heart disease, arthritis, type 2 diabetes, and even suicidal tendencies.
People with loneliness over the age of 50 are more likely to develop cognitive impairment, with a mortality rate that is about 80% higher.
In addition, multiple studies have shown that suicide rates are higher in lonely people.
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We should learn to adjust our mindset and treat ourselves and those around us differently.
Treat parents and children with more time.
Young people use their holidays and weekends to spend time with the elderly and their children, have a meal with them, and chat with each other.
The elderly must learn to self-regulate. When they want to be children, take the initiative to make a phone call, learn to send text messages, WeChat, cultivate some hobbies, try to get out of the house as much as possible, and don’t always stay at home.
Treat yourself with more confidence.
Self-confident people will attract more positive energy, and they will naturally stay away from loneliness. They will try to communicate with others and express their thoughts.
Meet those who love you and learn to be grateful.
Those who think that the love and dedication of others should be happy.
Because they can not only appreciate the beauty of each other, but also cannot give positive feedback to the giver.
Meet people you admire and learn to praise.
Praise is the best lubricant for interpersonal relationships, and it has zero cost and high return.
Meet someone who is jealous of you and learn to be low-key.
Others are jealous of you because your excellence makes them feel threatened.
May wish to lower your posture, it is better to have one more friend than to have one enemy.
Meet people who need help and learn to reach out.Do things that help people feel physically or emotionally comforted, such as helping the elderly cross the road.